What is mediation?

Mediation is a process in which an impartial third party (mediator) helps disputants (you and your spouse) negotiate a mutually acceptable solution. 

  • A mediator is not a judge, the mediator will not make decisions for you. 
  • The mediator is not your attorney, they do not advocate for one party or the other. 
  •  The mediator must remain impartial.

How does mediation actually work?

  • You and your spouse will meet with the mediator.
  • You may bring an attorney if you wish, but it is not required.
  • The mediator will help you work through the issues of divorce:

                             o Parenting time

                             o Equitable Distribution

                             o Child & Spousal Support (if applicable)

  • All decisions are made by you and your spouse.
  • The process results in a Memorandum of Understanding that serves as the basis for your settlement agreement.

How often do we meet?

  • You determine the pace of the negotiations.
  • Sessions are typically 1 to 2 hours with 90 minutes being typically.
  • Meetings occur on your schedule and may occur every one to two weeks.
  • It typically takes 3 to 5 sessions although it is entirely possible that your case could take more or less time depending on your circumstances and negotiating style.

Do I need an attorney? 

  • You do not have to retain an attorney to get a divorce in New Jersey. 
  • However, it is strongly recommended that you have an attorney review any agreements arrived at during mediation. 
  • An attorney will act as your personal advocate, something the mediator cannot do.

About Mediation

Mediation for Everyone

Mediation for Everyone

Mediation for Everyone

Mediation is about self-determination. Couples will make decisions for themselves with facilitation from your Mediator. This is a chance to be creative in your agreement.

Why Choose Mediation ?

Mediation for Everyone

Mediation for Everyone

See the Difference

Mediation for Everyone

See the Difference

Litigation is expensive, time-consuming and highly adversarial. Mediation can be accomplished in less time, at less cost and with less conflict.


Parenting Time

People frequently speak about "custody" during a divorce. New Jersey considers it in the best interest in the children to have frequent contact with both parents. You will develop a schedule for parenting time through mediation. Even if the child(ren) spend more time with one parent than the other, the schedule will provide the child(ren) access to both parents.

Equitable Distribution

New Jersey is an "equitable distribution" state. This means that all martial property in divorce is divided between the former spouses. Equitable does not necessarily mean equal. There are a number of factors to be considered as your situation may dictate a variance from exactly equal. During mediation you will list all assets and debts while devising a plan to distribute them between you.

Child & Spousal Support

New Jersey has determined that children should not be the financial victims of divorce. Both parents are obligated to contribute to the children's financial well-being. In addition, there may be a need for one spouse to provide financial support to the other to assist in maintaining their lifestyle for a period of time. This is known as spousal support.

Family Mediation

Family mediation is an excellent way to resolve disputes, such as divorce. Through this process you can reach agreements. This prevents decision from being forced upon you by the courts. You can be as creative as you want as you work toward agreements on important matters such as, parenting time, equitable distribution and child and spousal support.


About Costs

For more information about how mediation can save you money. Please look here.

Your Mediator

Charles Lowe

Charles has a BS from Troy University and a Master of Legal Studies from Arizona State University's Sandra Day O'Connor School of Law. He concentrated in conflict resolution and has graduate courses in mediation and divorce and family mediation. He completed the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators' 40 hour course in Divorce Mediation.

Charles served 16 years as a Chief of Police and another 3 years as a Director of Police & Public Safety. In these roles he has conducted numerous mediations, facilitations, and negotiations. This experience translates directly to skills needed for divorce and family mediation.

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Feel free to reach out with any questions or inquiries you might have. We specialize in accommodating those who need after hours and Saturday appointments. 

CL Divorce & Family Mediation, LLC

181 New Road, Suite 304, Parsippany, New Jersey 07054

(862) 801-0106

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